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My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

12.06.2025 15:03

My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

I.e. you thought that you had the perfect deal whereas they had already made up their mind and just weren't as emotionally invested in it as you were.

This happened long or shortly before they physically left.

This is why you can't expect them to feel anything close to what you're feeling right now, because you and them are on a completely different stage in the healing process.

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What they do doesn't matter and it's completely irrelevant to your healing process, though it’s valid to hate and judge them harshly for leaving the way they did.

You both are on polar opposites of the scale.

Simply put, because they have been prepared and you weren't.

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This is why comparing yourself to them in terms of the healing process isn't going to help you in any way, shape or form.

And during this process, they either started seeing someone new who they planned to secure as their rebound option or were busy creating their post-breakup plan.

Instead, focus on taking care of, solving and healing what you are experiencing right now.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

On their side, there has been a process of emotionally and mentally checking out while you were still together and while you were under the impression that everything is cool.

So, don't try to compete with them.